Okay honestly, I love skincare.

I like the products, I like the quiet, and I like pretending I’m a very organised person who has her life sorted while I do it.
I’m not – but skincare is where I cosplay that version of myself.

Some weeks I’m great at it – everything’s lined up, I’m consistent, I’ll happily stand there and do the whole thing and enjoy it.

Other weeks it’s cleanser, moisturiser, bed.

No tools.
No serums laid out like I’m conducting an experiment.
And honestly, that week still counts.

That’s basically what this is.

A routine that still works when your effort level is inconsistent – because let’s be real, that’s most weeks.

This is the baseline I always come back to.

I do want my skin to look great for as long as humanly possible, but in a calm, low-drama way.

This is pretty much how I approach most things, to be fair. There was a whole week where I tried to “glow up” and accidentally learned how to sew instead, which probably explains a lot (Botox, Curtains & Stroopwaffles: My Chaotic Glow-Up Week).

This skincare routine in my 30s is the one I actually stick to, even when life is busy and my motivation is “meh”.

Who This Is For (And Who It Isn’t)

This is for you if you like skincare, but you don’t want it to turn into another thing you have to be good at.

If you’ve ever:

• gone through a phase of being very into skincare
• then suddenly stopped caring as much for a bit
• then got back into it again later

you’ll probably recognise yourself here.

It’s not for people who love extremely complicated routines or want someone to sound authoritative and tell them exactly what to do. I’m not that person and this is not that post.

A Bit of Context, So You Know Where I’m Coming From

I wanted super clear skin that always looks fresh. That was it. No dramatic transformation, no fixing a “problem”. Just skin that behaves itself and looks healthy without effort.

A couple of years ago my Botox lady looked at my face and went, “Oh my god, your skin is so dry.”
She has also, at one point, said, “Oh my god, what’s wrong with your face?”

Still no idea.

Before that, my skin was always fine. Not flawless, not bad. I wasn’t trying to overhaul anything.

What surprised me is that my skin didn’t get better when I added more products. It got better when I stopped changing things constantly and stopped introducing new stuff every time TikTok convinced me I needed it.

Which I absolutely did.

If your routine looks like a timeline of skincare trends, you’re probably already nodding.

The Annoying, Unsexy Stuff That Actually Affects My Skin

This is just my experience, not advice, not a rule, just something I’ve noticed very clearly over time.

When I’m drinking loads of water and eating well, with lots of veggies and not heaps of sugar, my skin behaves. It’s calm, it’s clear, it’s not doing anything weird.

When I’m not, my skin tells on me.

Usually straight away.

Forehead, chin.

Same places every time.

I’ll act surprised, even though this has happened many times before.

I wish I could say a product fixed this. It didn’t.

If your skincare suddenly feels like it’s stopped working for no obvious reason, it might be worth looking at the boring stuff first before buying something new.

I say this as someone who would rather buy something new.

Stress and Skin (Not Making This Deep, Don’t Worry)

This genuinely caught me off guard, but I’ve seen it happen too many times to ignore.

I’m not talking about people scrubbing their faces to death or piling on products.

I mean actual stress.

Worrying. Overthinking. Carrying tension around all the time.

One of my best friends had acne for years.

Like, years. And what changed wasn’t some miracle product or perfect routine. It was when she finally started feeling more confident, stopped stressing so much about what other people thought, and just generally felt better in herself.

Her skin cleared up so much it was actually wild to watch.

I know that’s not very science-y. I also know it’s true, because I was her life coach at the time and saw the shift happen in real time.

If your life feels stressful or heavy or you’re constantly in your head, it wouldn’t shock me if your skin was reacting to that too. Not in a “think positive” way, just in a very human, body-keeping-score way.

Sometimes, nothing is wrong with your skincare at all.

My Morning Skincare Routine in My 30s (Very Low Drama)

In the morning, I wash my face with just water.

That’s it.

No cleanser.

No foam.

No “refreshing”.

I already woke up.

My face does not need something else to do.

After that, on damp skin, I use:

• hyaluronic acid, about 2 to 3 drops
• peptides, every morning, again 2 to 3 drops
• vitamin C most days, because I like how bright my skin looks when I use it

Then moisturiser. I mix a couple of drops of the Vitamin C in with my moisturiser, as it’s just smearing oil on your face otherwise.

I don’t buy expensive moisturiser. I’ve tried plenty of them, they’re nice, but E45 works perfectly for my skin and I refuse to complicate that.

My skin loves it, it doesn’t react, and it does exactly what it’s meant to do.

If you’re spending a lot on moisturiser and not really seeing the point, this might be worth reconsidering.

Then SPF.

Always.

Especially if you’re using retinol or tretinoin at night.

Skipping SPF in that situation is just asking for trouble.

A lot of this shift towards doing the sensible, slightly boring things is very 30s behaviour, which I wrote about properly in 35 Things I’ve Learned in My 30s – It’s Mostly Boundaries, SPF & Fresh Air.

Evenings, When I’m Actually In the Mood

This is the version of skincare I genuinely enjoy.

In the evenings, I always double cleanse. Always. Even when I’m tired.
First with a gel cleanser to get rid of sunscreen and general day grime, then a gentle water-based cleanser.

If I only do one proper thing, it’s this.

A few nights a week, I use my red light therapy mask. I love it, I use it consistently, and my skin looks better when I do. That’s the full extent of my reasoning.

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This is the one I use, in case you’re curious.

If you know you’ll actually use a device like this, great. If you know it’ll end up in a drawer, save your money.

Skincare is Where I Had to Learn Some Restraint

I like products. I enjoy trying things. I also had to learn when to stop.

I rotate between retinol (1.5%) and prescription tretinoin (0.05%). (I put the retinol on my neck and chest too).

Never on the same night.

Ever.

I don’t care what anyone online says.

I built up slowly, and I still back off if my skin feels dry. I’m not pushing through for the sake of it.

If your skin constantly feels tight or a bit sore, it might not hate the product. It might just be fed up with how often you’re using it.

The Calm, Boring Nights I Used to Underestimate

On the nights I’m not using retinol or tretinoin, I don’t go full minimal… but I also don’t do everything.

It really depends how my skin feels. Some nights I’ll use a collagen serum, eye cream, niacinamide, a centella ampoule, then E45 as my moisturiser. Other nights I’ll skip half of that and just do what feels right at the time.

I do own quite a lot of products, I just don’t use everything all the time. The ones I actually stick with are in 15 Beauty Products I Love In My 30’s.

I also use an AHA/BHA toner occasionally – I’ve had the Paula’s Choice one for ages. Not every night, just when my skin feels a bit congested or off.

I use it on my chest sometimes too if I get that heat rash / random little pimples situation, and it clears it up perfectly every time. One of those products I don’t use constantly, but I’d really notice if I didn’t have it.

And then some nights I genuinely just cleanse, use E45, and go to bed. Those nights my skin still looks great.

If your routine feels a bit flexible or inconsistent, that’s kind of the point. You don’t need to use everything you own every single night for it to work.

Gua Sha, Face Cupping, and Other Things I Like Doing

I love gua sha and face cupping, and I do them fairly often. Not every day, not on a schedule, just when I feel like it and have a bit of time.

They help with puffiness, make my face look a bit more awake and lifted, and I enjoy doing them, which is honestly the main reason I keep doing them.

I also occasionally do face yoga or face exercises – things like the “wow” mouth exercise where you make the shape like you’re saying wow. I always convince myself I’m going to be consistent with it, and then I’m absolutely not.

If I skip all of this for a while, nothing dramatic happens. I just start again when I feel like it.

That’s basically how I treat anything that isn’t cleanser or moisturiser.

The Weeks I Can’t Be Bothered (Very Important)

Some weeks I’m very on it.
Other weeks skincare is:

• double cleanse
• moisturise
• bed

And because the basics are solid, my skin doesn’t suddenly lose the plot.

If your routine only works when you’re highly motivated, it might be doing too much.

Things I Stopped Doing Because They Weren’t Helping

I stopped buying new products just because they were trending.
I stopped trying to fix every tiny thing on my face like it was an emergency.
I definitely stopped layering things just because TikTok said I should.
And I stopped assuming that doing more automatically meant better skin.

My routine was way calmer after that.

Where I’ve Landed With All of This

Some days I’m really into it. I’ll do the whole routine, enjoy it, take my time.

Other days I just want to get into bed and be horizontal as quickly as possible, and skincare is not the priority.

I don’t force either version. I just do whatever version feels realistic that day and move on.

My skin seems completely fine with that. I stopped overthinking it after that.

If you’re in a similar skincare phase to me, you might like these posts:

• 15 Beauty Products I Love In My 30’s: Skincare, Haircare and Makeup I Actually Use
• 35 Things I’ve Learned in My 30s – It’s Mostly Boundaries, SPF & Fresh Air
• Botox, Curtains & Stroopwaffles: My Chaotic Glow-Up Week